First, know your genre. I write both Women's Fiction and memoir. When I feel my manuscript is ready for querying, I research the market for published books that are similar to mine. Especially those that made the Bestseller lists. If you write non-fiction, you'll be asked to supply this information as part of your proposal. Check out the reviews on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, and Goodreads.
Below are some statements I've gathered concerning stories of abuse, both in fiction and memoir.
"This couldn't have happened."
It's your job as a writer to make your story--memoir or fiction--as real as you can. Read through your manuscript. Are there areas where you can slip in facts that prove this sort of abuse did happen, and still happens today in real life?
"The author is just looking for sympathy."
This comment almost always applies to memoir no matter what the subject matter is. But as the author, it is my job to make sure I'm not playing the pity card.
"This this type of book should include how the author overcame his or her history, not just a diary of wallowing in it."
It's my job to make sure I include where the main character is now because of what he or she went through. To find the positives of what they learned. That doesn't mean it should always have a happy ending, but it should have a finished ending. One the reader can feel a part of. Like he or she's in therapy. He or she's happy, married, and has children.
"If this was true, why weren't the abuser's arrested."
In my memoir, this has a high priority for me. It's my job to show why my abusers weren't arrested and why the county took no legal action. If you're referring to a memoir, this needs to be answered. If fiction, this needs to be answered. Anything that happens in real life must also be mentioned in fiction.
"I don't believe a word he/she wrote."
I have to accept that not every reader is going to believe my story. My story isn't for everyone. It's for the ones who've lived my story in one way or another. Even a grandmother or other family members are affected by what happens to their relatives or family friends. My job is to tell my truths. Leave the nay sayers alone. No matter what book you write, fact or fiction, you will always find those one star reviews on your work. Don't take it to heart.
"Children and teens shouldn't be allowed to read this."
The most recent book I read was being used in school for teaching purposes. It's not my job to dictate who should or shouldn't read my stories. Honestly, younger children should not read my current story. Teens are fine, especially if they're living in an abusive home or foster home.
"This can't happen in today's world."
Nobody wants to believe the cruelty that some adults commit against children, but it happens. Parents sexually abuse their sons and daughters, foster parents from Hell do exist in our world today, and divorcing moms and dads use their children to gain financial gains. It's my job to make sure the reader walks away believing that yes, it can and does still happen today.
"Why didn't the school stop it?"
Again, fact or fiction, it's my job to make sure I tell the reader everything my main character, teachers, or friends did on his or her behalf to try to help. Sometimes social workers don't believe the children.
Once you've read the one stars, make yourself feel better by reading some five stars. Study what reviewers liked about the story and why. Then go back into your story and make sure you are doing everything you can to ensure a fast-paced, character-driven, plot loaded, emotional read.
What tips have you learned to strengthen your writing?